I already explained to you why I think you should be the one to do it. Part of taking responsibility is addressing those impacted by your actions.

I’m not asking you to repent and grovel before the rest of the ship for forgiveness. A case of the shits, however terrible, hardly warrants that.

But if you do respect her, you should address the matter with her. This, I believe, supersedes any distance she might have asked you to keep.